*Post Renovation Depression*

Category: Daily Diary

What is up with me lately? Seriously. My face has totally broken out, I've eaten an ENTIRE APPLE PIE and TWO packages of chocolate chip cookies (by myself) within the last five days, I'm tired and irritable, I haven't felt like blogging. Or getting out of bed. Or (uh oh) showering.

I think I'm suffering from Post Renovation Depression. I wish I was kidding. But I'm not. I feel like I've been hit by a truck.

Here is Grace recreating my week for you:

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If there was an explanation of what Post Renovation Depression is, I think it would sound like this:

The completion of a renovation can trigger a jumble of powerful emotions, from excitement and joy to fear and anxiety. But it can also result in something you might not expect — depression. Our society makes it difficult to admit to having negative feelings after your renovation. When renovators express feelings such as ambivalence, irritability, or sadness, they may be suffering from Post Renovation Depression.

This probably sounds silly to most of you. I mean, I'm supposed to be happy, right? Doing cartwheels, right? I KNOW! It is already well-known that I am the poster child for dorkitude which explains part of it at least.

On the other hand, there is something in here that makes sense. For the past year, my whole life has been consumed with decisions/chores involving the front room and the windows and the basement. Every week there has been something else to accomplish. Massive, detailed lists. Frantically changing in and out of work clothes and keeping Grace away from construction debris and managing to juggle schedules and meeting deadlines and inhaling stain fumes...and....DRAMA! SUSPENSE! DEMO!

All of a sudden, no more drama. (For now, anyway.) No intense budget discussions and no more late night decisions about building materials. No ceilings falling in. No chop saw on my dining room table. No fingernails stained Walnut Brown. No more lead paint dust. No more leaky radiators gushing through my living room ceiling.

Just peacefulness and cleanliness and order. And that sudden cessation of adrenaline rushes feels like I've smacked right into a brick wall. Even while I'm looking at the living room and loving it. The attention is no longer on the do'ers, it's on the end result, which is how it is supposed to be. Right? Right?

So, why do I feel this way? Why doesn't anyone discuss this strange phenomenon? Or perhaps it's not a phenomenon and it is a personal failing instead?

Because there HAS to be something wrong with me if I'm fatigued and conflicted about not living with this anymore.

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There just has to be.

p.s. Oh wow. I just googled "post renovation depression" and it looks like I'm not alone. Though my blues don't seem related to dissatisfaction with the end result (it is amazing). It is more about my identity for the last five years being known as "the woman with the incredibly crappy house." Which is starting to finally look crappy no more. I mean, without an incredibly crappy house, who am I again?


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Comments

Be careful about making decisions during this mind-altered state. When I got the post-reno blues, I sold my nicely remodelled house and bought another wreck needing extensive repairs. Don't let this happen to you!

Be careful about making decisions during this mind-altered state. When I got the post-reno blues, I sold my nicely remodelled house and bought another wreck needing extensive repairs. Don't let this happen to you!

There must be a ton of fun stuff you've put off doing because of the house's demands. Run right out and do some of that fun stuff :-)

I'd say it's similar to the post wedding blues people get. All those hours dreaming, planning, budgeting, demolishing, reparing, decorating - only to have it end suddenly. Even if you're 100% happy with the results, now you don't have a project to encompass your thoughts - which is depressing.

Heck, I think that's why so many people have kids so quickly after getting married...

You are the person who rocks! One who has lived through the hell of renovation, learned a lot along the way, generously shared 100% of that with others. You are the woman with the beautifully restored living room, that's who you are. And sooner than you think, you'll be ready for more.

You are awesome! Your fans still want to hear about you, especially now that things are slowing down and your house is finally coming together.

Besides, now you can get out and work on your yard. ;)

You are normal and I sure feel a lot better after reading your latest post. We are almost done with our third and last bathroom. We have done a complete tear out and amazing transformation on our kitchen, etc, etc. All we've talked about, dreamed about, learned about and slaved away on for the last 2 years is our house. We've had late night discussions about counter tops, flooring, grout colors and backsplahes. We'ven discovered talents we didn't know we had and worked together as a team. Even if you don't admit it, it's nice to get the attention and admiration of friends and family when they see what you've done. As we finish the last major project, I'm afraid I'll miss going to the tile store, the plumbing store, the paint store, the antique hardware place, shopping for towels, etc. Half of my clothes are stained with mortar, paint and stain and my fingernails are a disgrace. Since I don't work outside the home, it's been like a job for me. We have high school age kids, so it's not like I don't have anything to do. I've stopped e-mailing pictures of everything we finish, beause I'm afraid everyone's getting tired of hearing about it. I did start a blog, but haven't worked on it very faithfully.

Well, on to summer!! My husband is more than thrilled to have some upcoming weekends free!

sounds like you're pregnant...

I agree with Mark!

Heeey! Don't you still have a kitchen to renovate? There's hope!

So do you have all the trim up in the upstairs hallway, and there is always the kitchen, and the yard and did you ever get the sunroom foundation fixed. Seriously enjoy the time to spend it in your awsome living room with your husband and child and take a deep breath.

Humans are incredibly adaptive creatures. You adjusted to crappy-house-hood, so you're sure to adjust to this.... probably just in time for a new project to hit, right?

Congratulations on your accomplishments!

sounds like you're pregnant...

Um, Mark & Anon, from your mouth to God's ears. No, no, no, no, no.

TULLY! Where have you been, sistah? Yes, the kitchen, the back room and the basement give me hope. And now the sunroom, sheesh!

The rest of you are totally sweet and totally funny and you need to come sit on my front porch and drink wine with me.

I'm sorry to say that I have the same illness. I felt similarly after what I fondly recall as "the summer of the wood pile." I guess in a way its to be expected with any intense undertaking-when it's over (but it's never over -haha-sob! kidding), there's a bit of a readjustment. I myself tend to get out of sorts at the change of seasons. I think of myself as someone who embraces change, but I guess I have certain weaknessess. If it's any comfort- you're not alone.

p.s. I've really been enjoying your blog this year. And I can't believe how much your Grace has grown!

Kudos to you! This is a really good blog here and I love your style of writing. How did you get so good at blogging?

High quality info here! Keep up the great work. I love the feelings being expressed.

Wow, amazing blog layout! How long have you been blogging for? you make blogging look easy.

This is the best blog I've ever seen in my life! I really appreciate you taking the time out of your busy day to share your this with everyone.

This is good info! Where else can if ind out more?? Who runs this joint too? Keep up the good work :)

Dreamin. I love blogging. You all express your feelings the right way, because they are your feeling, focus on your blog it is great.

 

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